A Lonely Home: For Better or Worse
Family sizes have been on the decline for many generations. There were the times when the typical family has as many children as possible to help on the farm. Now the norm is to have many two or three children. During the time, of In Our Time and The Sound and the Fury there seems to be an in between period leaning toward modern ideals. Nick comes from a single family home and Krebs may have had two siblings while the family in The Sound and the Fury seems to have many children. How might the number of siblings affect the grieving process of a traumatic effect such as war? Might Nick have recovered more quickly had he had a close relationship with a brother or a sister? Or did Krebs' worried family push him more into submission?
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I think again that reactions to tramatic events are based on the events themselves. I think in times of war, family deaths or suicide it is important to have close family ties, but I'm not sure if it matters how many people there are in the family. It is always good to know that there are people around who care about you and your well-being. I don't think that a family's worries can push someone more into submission. I would think more so that it would help knowing that there are people there for you who care about you. If someone is a part of a terrible war, and are truly effected by it I don't think any number of family members is going to help them. I think for the most part they will have to heal on in their own way, in their own time.
War is a traumatic experience for anyone to experience, and family and friends can help with the grieving process. Even though someone may not want to talk about the war experience, the family will be there for the person. I don't really think it matters how many people are in a family, but if there are more siblings around, the person may feel more support from many people instead of just a few people. The important part of the family, whether it is small or big, is to help the war victim through life. After the war, Nick was able to have time to himself on the river, which may have helped him heal. Family plays an important role in the grieving process, but it is also essential for the person to be independent and reflect on the war experience.
I think whether or not family size matters depends on the particular family you're referring too. Say Krebs had 3 or 4 siblings when he came home from the war. Would that really have made much of a difference if he and his siblings were never close. A family being large or small in my opinion would not change healing time in a dramatic event. Rather, I think that the closeness and bonds on the family are the most important in aiding someone who has been traumatized.
I believe that it is not necessarily the size of your family that allows you to cope with traumatic events easier, but more your social network. If your family happens to be a big portion of that social network then obviously they will help the most, but I would argue that close friends hold the most power when it comes to consolation. They are usually the ones that know you the best, and it is those sort of people that will help a victim to understand where they stand.
Traumatic events are something an individual has to deal with on their own time. While friends and family members can help, it really is up to the individual to get over a traumatic event. For the most part, family members and friends who want to help actually could end up doing more damage than there was to begin with. Thinking about a traumatic event and talking about it, don't necessarily help someone to get through it. In reality, talking about something is unlikely to help you be okay with it, while just moving on and letting the event be might be a more effective technique.
I think close family ties are important in modern family and not really in same times. Kreb obviously did not have same feeling toward his sibling after the war which indicates that he does not appreciate the relationship as much as he does before. However, he decide to go to his sister game anyway because he may be care?!.
I think that it might actually be more traumatic for a person in a single child family to deal with traumatic events. If you have both parents, a mom and dad, in a tough situation then they can only help you to some exent. They're older than the child, which would make it easier for the child to identify with someone their own age. Perhaps if Nick had a sibling it may have been easier to try and talk through it or just get through it at all. Because his mother isn't his age level it makes the communication barrier even that much more difficult to overcome.
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